Is it love or lust at first sight?

 I am always very suspicious of people when they say ‘oohh I saw him/her and it was love at first sight’, don’t buy it. Maybe it is because I have never felt that. I mean how do you know you love someone that you have never spoken to? Let’s say you look across a crowded room and see your idea of heaven, they may have the looks of an angel but have the personality of a plank of wood.

Now lust is a more plausible explanation because that initial reaction you get when you see someone you think is special is not ‘oh I think this is the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with’ but it is more like ‘I really want to see what it is like to kiss this person’ or even more honest ‘I really want to get hot and sweaty with this person’. Women tend to use the love at first sight thing more than men and my theory is women rarely publicly express their lustful intentions because that is not considered very ladylike. Despite major progress in today’s society, for women there is still a long way to go for us to express our sexuality without being judged as it is still the case of a promiscious woman being labelled a tart while a promisicious male is considered a stud. So therefore it comes as no surprise that us women go gooey eyed over a man and then bandy the L word about because it is safer as we will not be judged.

Reason for this topic is because I have had this thing for a guy that I work with, he is totally not my type but there is something about him that does something to me. My days could easily be spent just starring at him, he is soooo beautiful to look at 🙂 My colleague has clocked unto the fact that I seem to have a thing for him, and I gushed ‘I think I am in love’. Thinking about it I know that I absolutely do not love him but I couldn’t bring myself to say ‘I would like to snog the pants of him- at least for a start’. Why didn’t I just say that? Well because it is not the done thing to do is it?